dental care is something that has really come a long way in the past 100 years.

it's like you're in this group and a new person comes in and this new person is just a complete dork, a loser, an idiot really, but the other people in the group start to accept this person and pretty soon this person is included in the group which is all well and good because it's a group not an individual, and groups have different people in them and that's what keeps a group fresh.

but then this person sort of starts to move into what you might call a leadership position, although there aren't like official elected leaders in the group b/c it's not that sort of a group, but this person sort of starts to move to the forefront. and that's all well and good b/c it's a free country and this person can do whatever seems right for this person and can be whatever is achievable for this person. it's all good. it's fabulous. it's stellar, really. i mean, good on ya, person.

what this person can achieve in this case, in this group, is reliant on what works for the other people in this group. so when the elevation of this person happens it can really make you wonder if you misjudged the whole group from the beginning and didn't really understand what the group was about or what the people were about. you did not get the baseline. or, maybe the people all changed in reaction to this person's differentness. maybe the baseline shifted. nothing wrong with that. the group will decide what is best for the group, and if what is best for the group is to have a baseline shift, then good on ya, group.

so you misjudged the group from the beginning or the group has changed, but either way there is a gap now between you and the group. you go visit the group, and all you feel is the gap. you don't have anything to say to them anymore, so you listen for a while, just listen. and what you hear consistenly highlights the gap, and you see pretty quickly that it's about more than this one person. this person was a sort of catalyst that showed you the gap, but the gap is about you and the gap is about the group.

and so there is the group and there is you and there is a gap between the two, and it is what it is. so, you'll just head off to another group, right? i mean, no worries, eh? just spend a bit less time with this group and a bit more time with that other group.

wait. what? you don't have another group? jeez. who's the idiot now, eh?